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dylmao:

*points at ur bulge* is this seat taken

hentai1080p:

when the back of my neck gets tickled
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borrowedcarbon:

last-snowfall:

geardrops:

swanjolras:

out of all the aspects of millennial-bashing, i think the one that most confuses me is the “millennials all got trophies as a kid, so now they’re all self-centered narcissists” theory

like— kids are pretty smart, y’all. they can see that every kid on the team gets a trophy and is told they did a good job; they can also see that not every kid on the team deserves a trophy, and not everyone did do a good job

the logical conclusion to draw from this is not “i’m great and i deserve praise”— it’s “no matter how mediocre i am, people will still praise me to make me feel better, so i can’t trust any compliments or accolades i receive”

this is not a recipe for overconfidence and narcissism. it is a recipe for constant self-guessing, low self-esteem, and a distrust of one’s own abilities and skills.

where did this whole “ugh millennials think their so-so work is super great” thing even come from it is a goddamn mystery

what fucking kills me is, yeah, maybe we got the trophies, but who gave them out

this is not a recipe for overconfidence and narcissism. it is a recipe for constant self-guessing, low self-esteem, and a distrust of one’s own abilities and skills.

Which is pretty much what mental health practitioners observe happening.

It’s also what I observed happening as a singing teacher: the older kids literally would not believe a positive word I said until I had proved I would tell them they screwed up/had done badly/etc. I did so in as useful a way as possible (“So this passage. We really need to work on this passage. A lot. This passage is not good yet.”), but with almost every adolescent I taught I had to prove I would give them straight-up criticism before they would parse my praise as anything other than meaningless “the grownups always do this” noise.

oH MY FUCKING GOD YOU ARTICULATED THE THING. SO MANY THANK. WOW.

every single time i ever did athletics as a middle-school-ish kid (two seasons of softball, one of tennis) i got the “sportsmanship award.” which was their way of saying “well you’re terrible at this and none of the other kids want you here, but damn do you try hard to get them to like you anyway.” it was an affirmation of the very specific kind of failure i was, and middle-school-me was smart enough to see that.

but are you actually a furry
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zaynofrps:

Ahh the sweet smell of being replaced

Reblog if you are a BIRD NERD or if your friend is a BIRD NERD

paradisaic:

paradisaic:

my mom wouldn’t let me get a ferret when i was younger because she thought it would turn me gay

well guess what mom it wasn’t the ferret that did it

asciimiddlefinger:

like father like Sunn O)))

when you realize you’re a furry